When I miscarried, we were NTNP the first cycle. The second, I tried to start charting again but found it very overwhelming. A couple of cycles later I started charting, and we were half-heartedly trying. It wasn't until 6 months after the miscarriage that we started actively trying again. There was no physical reason for us to wait (because that is sometimes a factor as well) but we did because I just wasn't ready. And when I was ready, I found that some things about TTC had changed.
- Baby steps are your best friend. Don't feel obligated to go all out charting and temping and whatever else right away. Give yourself time.
- Getting motivated to try is also not as easy, because you know that the outcome of a positive pregnancy test isn't always a baby.
- You might become a testaholic. Finding out whether or not we were successful as soon as possible became really important to me. For one, it gave me time to process either way. For two, it gave me the ability to plan our next steps. That's comforting.
- You will probably feel like you have to be careful about how excited and hopeful you let yourself be during the two week wait.
- While you'll be disappointed when you get a BFN, you might actually be relieved too because even though you aren't pregnant, at least you know that you aren't going to have to go through another loss.
All of these things are normal. You feel how you feel, and it's okay. Just don't get bogged down in all of that.
Eventually, you get to a place where you can be excited and hopeful about trying again. That's awesome--embrace it. Let yourself hope. Let yourself dream. It's cliché, but I've been thinking about the line from Disney's Cinderella. "Even miracles take a little time". I absolutely believe that it is true--whatever form your miracle takes.